Margaritas and Abs with Leslie Urbas

Oct 04, 2021

This next guest on Moms Freedom Maker Podcast has always enjoyed an unwavering passion for making healthy nutrition as easy part of living a whole, fit and fabulous life. She worked as a Naval Officer Dietitian for 10 years followed by active duty for 3 years after and remained in the Reserves for another 7. Honoring our true calling is one of the best adventures we can undertake for our lives... she she hung up her uniform to sail the entrepreneurial waters of her own business voyage instead. Leslie Urbas, welcome to Moms Freedom Maker.

Leslie:

Thank you. Great to be here.

Jamie:

Yeah, so excited to dive in. And I would love by starting this episode by asking you, what does freedom look like to you?

Leslie:

A great question. So I that's a difficult one, because I'm partially a dietician, you know, previous military, but now I'm still married to military. So I joke that freedom is where we're not defined by military law, it's just getting around that I would think when I got up in the military, but I did not do that. Freedom to be truly looks like the ability to, I don't want to say Do what you want, because I do believe in rules. But the ability to live without boundaries, to live your life, the way you wanted. Not saying you don't put up a boundary, like, you know, I'm not doing this or not doing that, but fully live into your purpose, to fully read into the purpose that you were put here for. And to no longer hold yourself back and be that authentic self. That's where I truly believe that your most.

 Jamie:

Beautifully said, I love I love the way this conversation is already going to flow. So I want to hear more about where you came from, and what led you to make the shifts to becoming an entrepreneur.

Leslie:

Of course, so. So I'm from St. Louis, Missouri, where I grew up, I was basically born and raised there until I was 24. When I joined the Navy, I had two older sisters, which is part of probably the boundary thing and me and the free part. I joined the Navy, right after I finished my master's degree from St. Louis University. And I, three months later, I was in Rhode Island, which is where you do your training for the military. And then I traveled down to Jacksonville, Florida, where I've been for about 12 years now. And like you had said I was a dietitian in the Navy, and then in the reserves. And then I was also working as a civilian at the Naval Hospital. And then I had my daughter in 2018 while still working there. And my husband is not around a lot like 300 days a year with the least amount I would say that he's gone. So I was getting frustrated. It was long drives, it was a lot of work. It was a lot of things like that. And I was putting up with and I just I couldn't do it. So I got a job at home, I realized like why am I doing this for somebody else, I need to be doing this for myself, I want to make my own rules. And my family doesn't live where I am, and neither does his family because we're military moved around. So I wanted to be able to create the experience where I could go where I needed to, to be close to family when I wanted to and still have a job. The other big key to that was that we're gonna move and I hate resumes, job interviews. So I was like, if I stay on this path everywhere I go to have to go to another job interview in another job resume. And so I had just decided at that point, it was time for me to take on being an entrepreneur and really dive in deep. So that's how I began.

So yeah, I totally feel you not wanting to continuously change positions and roles. So finding something that was your own, that you can really take wherever in the world we're going is incredible. And I feel like that's a lot of reason that people do switch to being an entrepreneur.

Jamie:

So it sounds like you took a lot of what you were doing before though, and that's what created this business. Can I hear a little bit more about what this business looks like for you today?

 Leslie:

Yeah, of course. So it started as just a couple of people here or there and you know, you know, kind of cool and now I've developed this whole brand of Margarita and happy apps, which really is the truth of like, can live your life and still be as good as you want to be. It's not a shame or guilt. So I developed my brand around trying to drop the shame and guilt around food you know, I've eaten too much now I must appease myself and go on this crazy diet. And it's that on again off again rollercoaster dieting of, you know years or maybe just months hopefully and that shame of Oh, I eat the ice cream with my kid and I'm not I get into this or I need to go back to that. And I've really developed a brand based on trying to help people to see that they are more than what they need. And they're what I call mindset dieting, which is changing the way you approach a diet. Like, instead of me handing you a piece of paper, this is what you need to live by. It's me asking you, what do you want your life to look like? What do you want to be? How do you want to be healthy? What diseases Do you want to combat what runs in your family, so we can really hone in on you. And that's the backbone to how I do my quote unquote, kinds of dieting, or teaching you how to live your life is, tell me how you want it to look good, you want to be eating the lifestyle you want to be having, and then tell me your goals. And let's develop a plan based on you. And not a piece of paper, this is your calories, these are your points, this is what you need to follow. And it says really you as.

Jamie:

that sounds so much more sustainable than the traditional way that we tend to look at dieting and being healthy. But the way we're talking about this is you really you meet somebody where they're at, understand where they're trying to go, and you really work backwards from there. And they love that it's more of a holistic style to this industry, which is great. So I would love to know more about mindset guiding.

Leslie:

So with mindful dieting, you know, we really start with you instead of that, you know, Okay, tell me, tell me what your weight is, with all the things that failed in the past. Instead, what we really do is we discuss, you know, Okay, tell me, where you're getting hung up, tell me the things that go through your head. And I really go into the patterns in your subconscious mind. The things that you're repeatedly doing that you don't know you're doing the things that cause you to self sabotage the things that you say, you know, I lost a ton of weight on this, but then it came back with things where you say, you know, I'm really successful, but then something hits me and I have no motivation, or no discipline, or no ability to follow through. That's really where I go into mindset guidance. And for the first bit of time that you work for me, sometimes two, four weeks, we don't actually ever get to that plan just yet, we're literally breaking the processes that will cause you to fail, the repeated things that you do over and over again, that cause you to literally hit the wall in three months, or to have the story of, Oh, yeah, when I did that died, and I lost 60 pounds, but now it's back and then some. And instead, it's really like, that's it, there is no beginning more guidance, there is no, there's no begin or end diet is really just everything in a day. So you can learn how to live your life with the ability to, well, I only have puppies on the house, and maybe we're snowed in. So I guess it is kind of thing, you know, where you can really just live your life based on Okay, there's no shame, there's no guilt, I now have the right mindset to take on eating the foods that I need to. And you know, giving myself the states to also live. That's so important in helping people in this way, has got to just light you up. And just feel so good to help people feel better. Like they're they're able to live and not have to choose or count calories points.

Jamie:

I mean, how fulfilling is this for you?

Leslie:

I absolutely love it. You know, when I started this, I didn't realize I was actually teaching from this perspective. And then all of a sudden, I was like, wow, I am getting what I'm doing. Like it was like a click because, you know, I'm trained in the world of like, Okay, give them a title, specifically, my nutrition background. And I've really developed that over time, I had somebody joke with him the other day, like a life coach. And I was like, well, kind of but I come from the nutrition and wellness perspective of changing that you just so have changed the other things in your life, because you've released this big weight. And that is the food guilt and shame, not the weight, not just a weight on your body. So I love it.

Jamie:

Yeah. And I feel like on an entrepreneur's journey, journey as well. It's like, you don't really know at first, it's talking about it, it's opening up, it's starting, and then you just figure out what you love and where you're actually helping people. So it sounds like you've done an incredible job of that. And before this, Had you ever really thought about how much a diet would help change their life moving forward? Like, how did that look for you in that transition? Because I know it's like it affects their family, their whole mental health, their bodies, everything. But how do you help them step into that?

Leslie:

Originally when I started my business is called fitting fabulous family nutrition. But that's not really what we do now. But I did it because in the military world, I would see these you know, military spouses come in, and they would be like, I don't know how to get myself to live healthy, and then do things for the kids. And then when he comes home from deployment or you know, because they're still restricted in what they can eat, sometimes they Want to just keep going out and I don't know how to live the life. So I imagined helping them build this, you know, step by step process. And little by little, what I realized was that I really had to hone in on the deep part of them, that was blocking them from understanding could have the pizza, and follow through with, you know, still losing the weight. And as we began to take those steps, and I started to see my business really move. And then I started to do testimonials with people like, what did you gain? What's funny was this, nobody was saying, like, Oh, I lost this amount of weight, and I shredded This isn't like that. And it's, like, I have peace with food, I feel better about my life, I have more energy, I got to do my job. I'm an entrepreneur, myself, and I landed more clients, like, I was like, Okay, I'm, I'm doing things that I wasn't expecting in the testimonial. So then I literally had to have them, like, I would have to then prove like, and you also lost some weight to write because people expect to hear that. And that's when I realized, you know, I was doing much more than I thought I was doing, which is giving them a new lifestyle. And that's where I realized I'm really mindset, training them in a mindset, diet, health wellness way, then giving them a weight loss plan. And that's where I adapt.

Jamie:

That's incredible. So it sounds like what started as one thing has waterfall into just affecting all theories of their life, from business to health, wellness, family, relationships, and even children. I would love to hear how this is even affecting family life.

Leslie:

Of course, so so a lot of times, people get that frustrated, like, Okay, let me go to Hellofresh company or you know, some sort of company that brings in food for me, because I don't have the time. And what I hope to do through this is leverage your time, I also am a mom to when my husband was not here a lot. And I'll admit, he did a majority of the cooking in our young time together when he was here a little bit more. And that was fabulous. But when he walked out the door, I was like, Okay, now I got to figure out this time thing. So instead of having people approach them towards the light, okay, let's go get one of these companies, I teach them how to leverage their time and money, how to step into, okay, this is what you need to do. This is what you're trying to follow through with. Now let's talk about how we can save time and energy on the forefront. Let's talk about how you don't have to sit there on Sunday or Saturday and plan out every meal and have everything portion controlled, and have everything perfect, here's how you can do it. And here's how you can improve the drive thru if we need to a couple times a week for include that pizza every Friday night because you don't want to cook. And that's really where I see them developing. But we do this in a certain way. And we teach it in a certain way. And I have them involved their family in the process. You know, people feel so guilty if they go through a drive thru sometimes, but sometimes it's needed, you know, I totally understand what you have to have that drive thru moment. So that's when let's bring up the conversation with our kids on why we're doing this. On the healthy options, it doesn't really have to force them to get the apple slices over the french fries, but have a conversation. And sometimes that's where we're missing the mark, we're not actually talking to our kids about the decisions we're making, we forced them into it. And that's when later on in life, we see that our kids bounce in a different direction of they just go overboard on all the things because they never understood why they weren't given the option in the first place. And a lot of times, that's where I see, you know, sometimes moms come to me and they're like, my kid is obese, and I don't know how to help my kids. And part of it is giving them a decision teaching. And so that's really where I see it impacted families the most time saving, money saving and then teaching them health from the perspective they showed, instead of forcing something on them.

Jamie:

I love it. And you're really bringing a new awareness to the foods that they're consuming. It's I love how you said give them options, educate them a little bit more, so that they can learn to make your decisions and not feel like you're forcing your choices and decisions on them. That's so powerful. And I'll make sure everybody caught that. Because I feel as my son grows, it's something I really want to work on as well to just to instill healthy eating and let him know why we're doing it the way that we're doing it. But also give him the opportunity to choose maybe ice cream over fruit one day. I love that. I love it so powerful. And what's the number one reason you feel people find you or seek your services?

Leslie:

Yeah, so I would say it's a combination one it would be that roller coaster dieting, where they've tried a million things and they've never been successful before or two credentials. So so many times, you know, I've even done a lot of research myself. People go to somebody for nutrition and fitness because they look the part but a lot of times what they find out is that they look the part They only have one specific solution for them. So when people find out I am a dietitian, I have spent 5x. I've spent eight years in school for it. And then I've also been a dietician for 12 years and a personal trainer for about six years. And I have the nutrition, fitness courses and everything together, they like that, because they can hear that they're not going to get just, this is what works for me. So this has to work for you. And that's the combination. When I talk to my clumps, they say they chose for one or the other, whether eventually, roller coaster dieting combination of both, or too many emotions around food that they don't know how to navigate.

Jamie:

I would love to chat with you now about the habit changes that you've gone through with future plans that have really helped them get the biggest results with your program.

Leslie:

Yeah, of course, some of the habits that we have to change are, you know, starting with the mindset around food, it's an all or nothing mentality. That's the first thing. You know, we really have to approach that up. It's like on on or I'm on, or I set these Nevers not touching. No, no, no drive thru No, whatever. And we really wanted that first. And then the second thing with the habit changes is really, we need to figure out you know, there's emotional reasons why we reward reasons why we social reasons why we stress reasons why we do. So let's find out, where's our combination coming from, you know, what is it really and where do we need to, you know, force the habit to build a different way. As well as not just focus on changing ourselves, but transforming ourselves so much, we look to the past self like, this is what I used to do. So in order to get there, I have to change this. But as much as we say we change, we don't like change, people don't really want to change, right? It's hard to change. So some of you literally have to transform you, we have to take where you're looking for and transform the steps to get there. Instead of viewing it from a change perspective, stop looking backwards to forwards. Let's look forward to forming new self to get there. So we really work through those three things first, and developing new habits. So you feel like you're transformed to someone else. And you're not combat in that girl that you know, treated you wrong in high school, or that person you were when you died.

Jamie:

Okay, yeah, makes sense. And you mentioned emotional stress, eating binge eating. So if somebody is listening to this struggling with one of those things, how could you remove that from their mindset and help them reach the other side?

Leslie:

Yeah, so first thing we need to do is we need to figure out why. So the best way to explain that is through a story of my own. And that is when I went to officer development school back in the Navy days, when I was 24 years old. It was a five week program in Rhode Island. And I have never spent longer than two weeks away from my mother. And I know that sounds ridiculous. But when I went into my fourth week in that school, I was very emotional. I was like, I just want to see my mom, I want a hug. Like when you're there, you don't get physical contact, you don't get to drink caffeine, you don't get any kind of chocolate, you don't get any kind of desserts, right? Your life is very restricted as they teach you when you're there. And that fourth week, I just couldn't do it. There was something that was really getting to. So I said, Okay, Leslie, what is your problem, but I could not stop crying. So I was allowed to call my mom, we weren't allowed cell phones, they use somebody else's. I can't believe she answered because there's a random number. All he was doing was crying in the bathrooms and our rate, legit all out crying, and she was calming me down. And as soon as we hung up the phone in which I said zero words basically, I was like, all I want is chocolate. All I could think about and I'm at this school that I can do nothing about it for three days, I want a chocolate, or I want a cake or I want an ice cream. And I'm like why? After two days of asking myself why I came across something in my brain that was like when I was little and we would get hurt, we would get chocolate or we would get ice cream. And so this emotion that I couldn't get like I couldn't get the physical contact of my mom was I need this to replace it. And it took me some soul searching to figure it out now to adapt to that. I had to give myself some transform phases to get there. So it was okay well an officer development school I couldn't go get it anyways, so it was fine, right? I'm still restricted even though I wanted it. I couldn't get it. Well, when knowing I had moved to Florida away from my family, and I was only going to see him every few months, I had to overcome that right where I could literally blow up all the chocolate and ice cream that I wanted to. So I had to start going into myself emotionally and figuring out other ways to get that emotion that I needed without having no solid friendships yet moving through the world and all that good stuff. So little by little I took transforming processes like okay, let's transform how to get this good feeling without the chocolate or the ice cream. Now Let's transform how to connect differently to that chocolate and ice cream in control of that emotion. And then the last thing is, how do I do that and live that for life. Because that process is ingrained in my head, I've had that since I was a child. That's just like, you know, when you food, you swallow it, and then your body does the rest, right? So as your body's digesting that food is so much similar, similar to exactly you eating that chocolate or ice cream, it's ingrained, you have to go get it. So now you have to change that process, but it's always there. It's always deeply rooted. So we have to transform it slowly so that we become conscious of it. So you don't just go Okay, happy emotion. I'm not gonna eat, you may actually physically get the ice cream be like, Okay, wait, remembering. And it doesn't actually. Because it's just like driving a car. You get to your nation, and you're like part of it. Right? And that sometimes happens with your food and your emotions and your stress. And so that's some of the biggest things that we've uncovered that mindset.

Jamie:

Wow, what a powerful story. I would love to ask you, if there was one thing that you give a mama who's listening who might be struggling, because she doesn't have much time to meal prep, or cook for her family, what she feels is healthy meals. What advice would you give her because I know meal prepping and planning out somebody's entire week, like you said, isn't really possible.

Leslie:

So I knew the healthy convenient option is my best way to teach people quickly and easily. There are so many healthy convenient options in your grocery store, in your freezer section. And it's typically made by the actual grocery store company. So whenever your grocery stores that's closest to you, and I can guarantee you, they have pre made frozen meals, that will save you time, they have less sodium, they have less additives, preservatives, all that kind of stuff, because it's literally made their babies themselves. So it has less shelf time shelf life kind of thing. And that's one of the biggest things that sometimes I have to do. The other thing is, is save yourself cutting time. It is okay to get the pre cut vegetables and fruit, it will save you so much time to quickly the only thing made you do those things is maybe add a little bit of like lemon juice, if it's apple slices, so that way the apples don't look Brown. And that's the biggest the biggest if those are the top two things, I tell anybody that will leverage your time like crazy, you know, go to there. And if you don't know where they're at in the grocery store, your grocer does, or they can give you the fresh option of them. And then you can preserve some people tell you how long do you have?

Jamie:

Yeah, I'm sure everybody listening to this is gonna be taking mental notes next time they pop into the grocery stores. That is a lot of the time consuming part is actual prep, rather than throwing it in the oven. Right? So very, very helpful tips. And I would love to ask you if you have any other advice or recommendations for somebody who's probably listening to this right now, it really resonating with this message.

Leslie:

So my first thing I would say there's top two, the first thing is, I want you to really ask, especially if because you're a mom. Meaning so many of us sell ourselves short when it comes to the diet when it comes to nutrition when it comes to getting healthy. Because we see other moms that just can't do it. Or we see other moms that did lose all this weight. But the true question to you is, are you working in health, we put ourselves last. And we say we'll die for our kids, but we don't really live for them. So instead, we pretend that these things don't bother us. And we live in that. I don't want to be in the future. And I don't want to be you know, I don't want to be overweight, but I don't want to wear that I don't have the time to do this. And instead of dealing with that ourselves and putting ourselves first and just this one way we sell ourselves short. So ask yourself until yourself you are that's the first thing. And then the second thing is any time that you're going to do a diet or lifestyle change. I want you to ask yourself, as you're beginning it, does it bring you joy? Are you excited? Does it make you feel good and like this is sustainable. If you don't feel joy, excitement and get it will be sustainable, it will fail you. So don't waste your time to see you have something else on the list that makes you feel bad. instead be able to say you have joy, you have excitement, and you are ready for this and you know what's going to be sustainable. So that way you take on a challenge that you will get results with instead of just another thing that you fail that.

Jamie:

Drop the mic after that way that that is so powerful, and I love how you're stressing the fact that this is results for a lifetime. It's not another diet that's just going to be failed. It's not skipping all of your favorite dishes Thanksgiving with the holidays coming up, right? It's sustainable eating in teaching your family that you can do this in a way that's healthy and rewarding at the same time. Now, I want to hear your slogan, one more time to it was Margarita rose, and you can drink the Margarita, you didn't have the apps. I love it so much. Now, I would love to ask you for a book recommendation. And I don't mean to put you on the spot, but to have one that you'd recommend for the listeners today.

Leslie:

Yeah, so I would probably say the book that changed my life, the most would be called badass habits by Jensen zero. I loved that book. And it was so easy to follow. And it was 21 days of different things to do. That would be the first one. And if you ever I always forget what it's called after remember, there's a couple of books, a lot of people talk about intuitive as a good one. I kind of like that one. I think sometimes it's hard for people to work with themselves. But the other one would be useful how we have to look that up. But it was a book owners called mindless, mindless, he talks to all about how we mindless, it will blow your mind. If you look up mindless eating, you'll be like, I cannot believe this is true. And it talks all about how we overeat in certain social situations. And you will literally be like, it's like a Netflix thing you know, where you watch one of those. It's not a Netflix movie, but you watch a Netflix tutorial thing about all these things that you read mindless eating, and I guarantee you'll be like.

Jamie:

Holy crap. I can't wait to check all of these recommendations out. And I'm gonna add them to the show notes here as well. Actually, what you just said, sparked something. Well, two things actually, for me right now, first time. So I've got a 10 month old here who just I need peace. It's like a bottomless pit until I make healthy things. I'm vegetarian. So we're at this point in his life raising raising him in that way until we can educate him on why we've made that decision that we're going to allow him to choose his path there. But what do you recommend for a baby? to work with children? much? Is there any advice for something like that that's going on? Yeah, of course.

Leslie:

So I do work with children. For your 10 month old who said he was a boy, I do truly believe that boys have hollow legs. My 14 month old, almost could eat the same way. I'm like, Why are you so eating? Like, he could just eat if he if he had access to the pantry, I guarantee you we would all be gone like I find. But the thing I always encourage that will help people to be more sustained, is to mix a carb with protein. So many times the snacks that we give are things like, you know, like a green bar, some people can easy full of carbs. But our kids would feel more sustained if they had just a little bit more like a little bit of cheese or a little bit of peanut butter, or you know, a bar that actually had more than two grams of protein in it. Kids don't need crazy amounts of protein. But it will help them to feel fuller longer when your kid is, you know, very active in boys are crazy activity, like in comparison to my daughter. And that's a generalization just with my two kids. He was he's crazy and all over the place. And at this point, she was not the same way. So the more they're active, they're burning through those carbs and those carbs just leaving their body. So they're hungry. And they're like, Okay, well, you know, while you sat in the same place for 35 circles. And it's like, Where's the next thing? You know? So thinking about how they're still doing all that stuff will also help. And then just add enough protein in it.

Jamie:

That so true is running laps around me. All right, well, crawling laps around. And the second thing that that kind of brought up was how easy it really is to get into a meal routine. That may or may not be the healthiest for your family just because maybe it's easier if you just don't look up new recipes. For example, I find that I can kind of the same five fields maybe on repeat, like throughout the week and rotate them. So to have his recommendations on shaking it up. Even just looking at more recipes and trying things or what do you recommend usually?

Leslie:

Yeah, you're more than welcome to check out recipes and things like that if you're trying to do it from a health perspective of losing weight as well. There are meal plans you can get some of which I teach that would be curtailed to you and your family to get you results but give you new ideas. The other thing that two other things that my husband and I have instituted when he's home more often is one meatless Mondays, which you would already be doing from a vegetarian perspective. But for somebody who does incorporate going to a Meatless Monday, which means you don't eat meat on Monday with caution on recipe, so that would be one thing or the other thing that my husband and I try to do is besides date night every week, he likes to cook so he finds a new recipe every week that he'd like to make Then we incorporate that then to be something that you do, and the older your kids get involving them in that, they will truly love that, you know, that's a big piece of it. And for kids, I mean nearly 10 months. So as ages and gets a little bit older, I have to pick out something they've never had an adversity store, and then try to figure out or Google a recipe there, or the next week, we'll use it so that they can start trying things that they were otherwise not known to before, and that I would not be picking myself. So that that's another way to just kind of spice it up with family and give them something else to do.

Jamie:

Yeah, I love that point, it becomes pretty simple to walk in the grocery store and just continue to get the same things out of the car on repeat every time we go. But I love that option of allowing your kids to choose something, making a meal around and really involving them in that way. So I hope all the moments listening or taking notes right now because this is some serious value that we're receiving today. And I would love to wrap the show up with any final words that you have for the listeners today.

Leslie:

Yeah, I think it's just you know, know that you're worth it. And stop selling yourself short. From a math perspective. I think that's the best way to go. Because it's so hard. And no matter what you choose, you're like, I can feel guilty because you feel like somebody out there searching you remember, it doesn't matter. As long as you feel good in your decision. And you know, you're worth it. You made the right decision.

Jamie:

Thank you so much for coming on the show today, Leslie. And as I said before, guys, and use the links for books that we've discussed today will be located in the show notes below. So please check them out or pop over to your website to have anything else you would like to share. Can you please drop your link for everybody who's listening right now?

Leslie:

Yeah, of course I definitely will. And you can find me in my facebook group as well. It's called weight loss and wellbeing for high performers. You don't have to be a high performer. But it's just a good place to also get free information every day.

Jamie:

Awesome. Thank you so much.

Leslie:

Thank you for having me.

 

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