Ep 043: Your Inner Circle

Dec 11, 2020

When I say your inner circle, I really mean the five people that you spend the most time with.

Now the reason I want to talk about your inner circle is that you become a mixture of all of these people that you choose to spend your time with. I know, crazy right!? Now, this could be family, friends, coworkers, children, you know, it’s basically if you think about the five people that you’re around the most, it said that you’re a melting pot of all those five people combined.

I want to talk today about the importance of choosing the correct five people to surround yourself with, and how you can actually level up yourself by leveling up those who are around you. Unfortunately, that for a lot of people means eliminating or scaling back some of the time that we’re spending with people who aren’t helping us reach that next level and aren’t pushing us to be the kind of person that we’re meant to be.

I know that can be a hard pill to swallow. I’m not saying that you should go excommunicate your friends and family and just totally cut ties with them. That is not at all what I’m talking about, I’m just saying there can be a balance between spending less time with those people who aren’t going to propel you forward and finding those who will.

Now, when you are choosing your five, your inner circle, these don’t have to be people you visit within real life. It can be somebody who has a podcast, you can surround yourself with somebody who’s an author who’s written a book. It’s just about spending your time in their world where you can start to experience a new perspective.

I think that’s where a lot of us, you know, get lost or confused as we think we have to have these five people that were around in-person constantly. And a lot of people, especially you busy mamas, don’t have time to hang out with five people. That puts you in a different mindset from those people you’re trying to surround yourself with.

So how can you start thinking about your inner circle and finding your people? It’s really looking to find people who have accomplished something you’d like to accomplish or have traits you would like to adopt, too.

Maybe they have something going on in their lives that you admire, or maybe it’s simply somebody who makes you happy or makes you smile. This can even be a TV show that you enjoy, okay, if you have an actor on a TV show that you just really enjoy watching. I mean, that can definitely be one of your five people or five things that you do that raises up your inner circle.

How I up my inner circle:

  • Listen to podcasts
  • Go to seminars
  • Read empowering books
  • Watch motivational videos from highly influential people

By doing these things, I know that I’m constantly learning from people who are much further ahead of me and I can hopefully take some of that knowledge and be leveling up with them.

I know there’s a lot of people who I’ve had in my life, there’s probably a lot of people who you have in your life, that instead of being battery chargers and when I say battery chargers I mean, somebody who lifts you up, somebody who gets you excited and motivated and helps you. But on the other side of that, there are battery drainers. And those are the people who don’t make you feel very good. They give you kind of a yucky feeling.

Do you know? They don’t give you something to look forward to, maybe they’re kind of shameful of you, or kind of pointing out your flaws or telling you not to pursue something because you might fail.

Those are battery drainers, those are people that don’t need to be a part of your top five, okay, if you’ve been childhood friends with this person, or it’s your spouse, and you can’t eliminate them out of your life completely, you just scale back the amount of time you spend and communicate with them and replace it with people who will make you feel good.

All right. Now, when choosing your inner circle, when choosing your five people, I personally recommend trying to get very well rounded here. So if you have somebody who’s very motivational, or very good at, say, entrepreneurship, okay, and somebody else who’s a great person to have conversations about your family with try to get people who are very good at specific aspects, because you can pull those pieces that they’re great at, and you can become better in those areas.

Let’s say right now, you’re in a nine-to-five job. And three of your five people are co-workers in that nine to five job who have no plans of ever leaving that job, okay, and they have no plans of being an entrepreneur or anything. But you do, you want to be an entrepreneur, you want to start your own thing. But when you’re hanging out with them, when you’re at dinner with those three friends, they don’t understand you. So you might bring up your ideas, you might talk to them about some crazy business idea that you want to start. And they shoot your ideas down. Or they try to keep you in the job and tell you that it’s stable and that you have stability, and you’d be crazy for leaving it.

See what I’m getting at? You want people on all different levels that can give you well-rounded views and help you instead of hold you back.

Okay, if you want to be an entrepreneur, you need to find an entrepreneur friend, listen to an entrepreneur, podcast, read entrepreneurial books, because you need to surround yourself with people who have that mindset because the mindset is completely different. And the reason I brought up my interview with Lindsay, is because she was in that situation. She was surrounding herself with co-workers who didn’t understand where she wanted to go. And once she pivoted, and she started surrounding herself with entrepreneurs who were striving for their next level, they weren’t afraid of failure, she was able to level up herself and understand that she could do it too. And that was because the people that she started surrounding herself with, understood where she was at because they had been there and they knew where she wanted to go because they were there.

Honestly, if you can start to level up your inner circle, if you can start to really magnetize these people into your life, who will help bring you up to your next level, you are going to see exponential growth.

And not only yourself, but in your relationships, because you’re going to value them so much more when everybody is filling your cup up instead of draining you. I know it can be difficult if you’re so used to spending time with people who maybe don’t make you feel the best. But I promise you that there are people out there who will lift you up. There are people out there who want to see you succeed no matter what. They’re going to help you pursue your dreams and they’re going to be proud of whatever stage you’re at right now and wherever you’re trying to go.

I would love for you to take a minute right now and just think about your top five, your inner circle that you have at this very moment and don’t think about it in a way that you’re maybe upset or, you know, sad about anything because you shouldn’t be. Okay? Just look at that as where you were. Then I want you to think about the battery drainers and the battery chargers out of those five people, is there anybody in there that you can just dial back the time with so that you can replace your inner circle with somebody who’s going to help you on your journey?

Now, if I can be one of your five, that would be totally awesome, because I would love to continue guiding you on your journey. So definitely keep popping in those earbuds and keep checking out these podcast episodes.

I also want you guys to really get clear on how you can help those 5 people and how you can make sure you’re a part of their inner circle too. How can you make sure that you’re one of their five? Right? How can you be in their inner circle, leveling them up and being a battery charger for them? How can you boost them up and help them reach their next level?

You’re not only going to get more communication with this person, but they’re going to help you to.

You have something inside of you that can help other people. If you can start to utilize this superpower and help others reach their next level with it, that’s where you’re going to find the most fulfillment in your life. You’re going to feel the most satisfied when you can start to utilize that strength of yours and unite this inner circle to create a well-rounded person that’s constantly becoming better because of it.

I really hope you start to think about your inner circle, think about how you can improve it. Think about a book you could read, a podcast you could listen to maybe even just a feel-good movie that will help lift you up. But find your people no matter who or where they are. And focus on how you can start to make these changes in your life that will make you feel better. That will make you level yourself up.

If you’re interested in being a part of my inner circle, pop on over to Facebook and type in The Freedom Maker Tribe. I would love for you guys to be a part of my tight-knit community where I pull back the curtain and give you guys more tips and tricks on how to start and scale your business. And we can get to know each other on a deeper level. Once again, that’s on Facebook, you can pop over there and type in the freedom maker tribe. I’ll catch you on the inside!

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