Ep 011: Embrace The Power Of Being YouAug 31, 2020
In a world so crowded with noise I want to talk about a secret weapon that everyone has, but so very few people use. I want to talk about the power of being you and how embracing your true self can propel your life and business to new heights.
Very few of us feel comfortable being our authentic self because we don’t see ourselves as remarkable. We don’t realize that our authenticity is the one thing (more than anything) that makes us unique!
What usually happens is we start to conform to others around us in a way that starts to mask who we truly are.
While many of us love the idea of being our true selves, almost like a reflex we conform to others in society for the sake of “getting along” and when we start to blend into society we start to lose our uniqueness that makes us, us.
Our identity can easily shift from being our authentic self, to becoming who everyone else wants us to be.
The key to being remarkable is to embrace being the authentic you by learning how to be your true self. You have to have a deep sense of who you really are and the value you bring to the world.
When you’re able to show up as your authentic self, the pressure goes away because you’re no longer trying to be someone you’re not.
The more we live on the surface of our identity, the less we’re in touch with our deeper, true self. The more we live on the surface of our identity the more distant we become with those around us.
Many times the problem is that the more we look to external factors to find ourselves, the further off track we actually get.
When we spend our time and attention trying to be something other than ourselves - what will we find ourselves to be? By changing ourselves for the purpose of being perceived in a certain way or to try getting the approval of others, it only puts us further off our path.
I want to tell you a little story about my experience with this.
Growing up I would say I was like 90% of young girls, wanting to fit in so badly I didn’t care about much else. I spent years trying to follow in the footsteps of others based on how they dressed and acted. I went as far as coloring my beautiful strawberry blonde hair at 13 years old to a dark dark brown color, because that’s what most of the other girls had. I started tanning my skin and got fake nails. I even acted differently to try making friends with the girls who set these trends.
I soon lost many of the best friends I grew up with because they had known the real me, who was suddenly quite lost.
When I got into modeling that only added to the need to fit in with the crowd. I was suddenly told how to act, dress and do my hair and makeup. Following the trends and styles of others became a part of the job description.
Over time this only got worse and I started to forget who I was and in the process a whole new heap of problems showed up.
Deep down, I knew I was losing myself and my identity. I didn’t know me. My loved ones didn’t know me.
I realized that by conforming to society and those around me I was only going to get further and further off my true path. I knew I had to make a change. I was called to figure out who I truly was and what I wanted out of life.
Sure, things came up and tried to keep me from coming out of my shell, but then I thought about how my life would be if I just cut the ties with how I thought I should show up, act and dress. I wanted to just be me, whatever that meant.
The idea of finding myself felt so freeing.
I started to change my mindset by following powerful leaders like Tony Robbins who taught me that by being yourself you’re paving your own way to absolute happiness and abundance.
I decided that I would never try to fit in again if it meant forgetting who I was in the process. That I was going to do, be, act, dress and behave in a way that was without a doubt truly me. I was going to show up as the best version of myself, always. After I stopped trying to impress others and was able to just accept myself the way I was, I started to find myself again.
By sharing the authentic me, unapologetically it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders and I wasn’t afraid of what others thought anymore. I was more afraid of how life would be if I went back to trying to be just like them.
I’ve learned that by opening up, speaking from the heart and being vulnerable you can impact the lives of so many around you. That by owning who you really are you start to fall in love with yourself in a much deeper way.
There are three ways I’m going to share with you that can help in boosting our authenticity.
- Know your value 2. Form Authentic Relationships 3. Make Authentic Decisions
It all starts with understanding and knowing our value.
If you don’t think you’re valuable, it will make it very difficult to show up in the world and be yourself. If we’re worried about judgement, lack or always comparing ourselves to others we’ll struggle to know our worth.
So how can we start to understand the value we bring to the world?
- Know Your Value
- Guard Your Mind: It’s important to guard your mind from outside influences that try to pull you off track. We’re all pulled in so many directions each day that it becomes really easy to get off track.
- Begin Each Day With Gratitude: If you can begin to truly appreciate the things you already have and the life you’re living, you’ll start to value the little things and in turn, value yourself and the life you’ve created.
- Know Your Potential: Start seeing new opportunities through the eyes of level 10 you. Don’t see things through the lens of lack or that you don’t have them now, know that you can have anything you want if you realize your potential and can be yourself.
- Form Authentic Relationships
- You Become Your Peers: What if I told you you were a combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with? It’s vitally important that you form authentic relationships with people who boost you up and encourage you to be yourself and help you reach greater heights.
- Surround Yourself With Battery Chargers: There are two types of people we can associate with. Those who drain our batteries or those who charge them. I’m sure you’ve had someone call you before and you look at your phone and just don’t want to pick it up because you know the conversation isn’t going to be light, it’s going to take a piece of you with it. That’s an example of a battery drainer. We want to make sure we’re surrounding ourselves with people who boost us up and get us excited about life and the experiences that come with it.
“The number one reason people fail in life is because they listen to their friends, family and neighbours.” - Napoleon Hill
- Make Authentic Decisions
- Guard Incoming Information: You wouldn’t take marriage advice from a divorced friend, financial advice from a bankrupt family member or start a business with a partner who doesn’t have the drive to follow through. You have to take information you receive lightly and have the trust within yourself to make decisions based on your truth.
- Values: When we make decisions based on our values we can be sure we’re always following our heart and staying true to ourselves. If we can align our values with our actions our decisions reflect who we truly are.
After aligning these three areas of your life with your authentic self, its time to show your authentic self off to the world, unapologetically. I’m telling you, when you do this others will be attracted to you because deep down they want to be authentic too!
We wonder what life could be like if we learned to be authentic too.
In a world so involved in social media where everyone is jumping on the next trend and trying to look perfect, seeing someone stand up and just be who they are, is completely refreshing.
Not only is it important for you to have a deep understanding of yourself, but that’s who other people want to see and get to know! They want to relate and feel a connection on a deeper level.
By being your authentic self and posting things that others wouldn’t, by opening up and sharing real experiences, you’re opening up an entirely new conversation with your audience.
This is true in your personal life and in your business.
So how can embracing the power of being you boost our personal and professional lives?
Think about it, when you’re scrolling social media and you see people posting the perfect photos with gorgeous outfits in scenic places - yes the photos look great and are eye catching, but most of the time they aren’t relatable.
Most people and businesses are trying to look perfect on social media.
It’s so refreshing when you scroll and you see someone (especially someone you look up to) be vulnerable and share the story of where they came from - which could be right where you are right now. Or they just share things that are happening in their real life.
When people open up and be themselves publicly - it gives others the boost to do the same. When businesses share their truth and hold nothing back, it shows people that they’re real and relatable.
It’s important to understand that people don’t want you to be perfect, they want you to reflect who you really are through the words you speak, the content you post and the things you create.
People want to see authenticity and they want to relate to you. There’s too much of the opposite happening online and in our world right now.
Take this unique opportunity to show the world who you really are, unapologetically!
So often we try to hide our true selves because we’re afraid to stand out. Think of a time when you sat back wondering why you didn’t have the confidence to do something. Maybe it was karaoke night and you really wanted to jump on the stage and give it all you’ve got, but you held back.
Or maybe you were at a wedding and your favorite song came on but you were too embarrassed to dance. We wonder what people might think of us so we just play it safe.
Think about all of the opportunities missed because we were trying to blend in.
If you ever find yourself blending in with the crowd and you know deep down that you want to break free and just be yourself. Ask yourself, “Why don't I feel confident enough to come out of my shell?”.
Once you make yourself aware that you’re conforming to the crowd you can work to change this feeling and step into your authentic self.
Then not only will you know who you are, but you will also be who you are. You’ll attract the right people and circumstances into your life. Since there are so many people “conforming to others” out there, when you decide to follow your own path you will look, feel, and be different from everyone else. That is why this is the one thing (more than anything) that will make you remarkable in every way.
This is one thing that will help set you, your brand and your business apart from everyone else out there, because people begin to look up to you and wonder how they can start to let their authentic selves shine through.
Cheers to showing up with me today and in the next episode we’re going to talk about the number 1 key to success in the social media game and how to create content like a boss.
Freedom Makers I’ve started a facebook community because I wanted to create a safe space for you to be your authentic self. I want us to be able to communicate there and help each other through our life and business needs. I’d love to create a tribe of women who are all looking to boost each other up and help each other through our roadblocks. It’s a community full of real people looking to make an impact on the world. If you’d like to join CLICK HERE and I look forward to connecting with you there!
Until next time, be you.
Stay connected with news and updates!
Want to know when new posts or episodes drop? We'll slide into your inbox once per week with the latest aha, inspiration or motivational piece.
We hate SPAM. We will never sell your information, for any reason.